My wife Beth asked for the recommendation of a book to read during Lent. I suggested Abba’s Child by Brenan Manning. I find his writings filled with grace. We were having dinner one night and she said that she had begun the book and it seemed to her that he was basically saying three things. One, “Get over yourself”Two, “Forgive yourself“and Three, “Let God love you.”And then she said, “I suppose we all wrestle with those things.” I think that she is right that we all wrestle with those three things in one way or another and so I thought that it might be a good idea to address them in light of this glorious day of the Resurrection of Jesus Christ.
First “Get over yourself.”That would be a good line in the New Beth Kasch Paraphrase Bible for when Jesus said, “Repent for the Kingdom of God is at hand.”He really meant, “Get over yourself.”
And if there was ever a generation that needed to hear those words it is ours. To try to help people feel better about themselves, we have told them that not only may they self identify as any number of genders but also any age or even other species. I saw a video of a woman insisting that she was a cat and wanted to be treated accordingly. (Wonder where they put her litter box?) But extremes like this, to make us feel better about ourselves, are not working. The Chicago Tribune reported that a higher percentage of incoming college freshmen are being treated for mental and emotional illness than ever before in our history. And while it is wonderful that medications and therapy are available, it is also true that in many instances they are only treating the symptoms and not the root cause. St. Paul talked about root causes when he prophesied in 2 Timothy about the latter generations. I’m not really an end times buff but see if any of this rings true for you. “For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self control…and I’m only about half way through his list. But you get his point. We don’t need to feel better about ourselves; we need to get over ourselves.
Jesus told a great story of how we can do just that in the parable of the prodigal son. A son, who was full of himself, asked for his inheritance early so that he could go off and live life the way that he wanted to live. He gave no consideration for his Father’s wishes or anyone else. After partying all of his inheritance away he became so desperate that he took a job feeding pigs. For a Jew that was as low as you could go. Then one day it dawned on him that even the servants in his Father’s home had it better than he did so he got over himself and decided to come home. Since he has squandered his inheritance he thought that he could only be received back as a servant. But when his father saw him returning home, his father ran to greet him, put a ring on his finger and a robe over him and called for a feast because his son who had been lost was now found.
Jesus’ resurrection paves the way for us to get over ourselves and come home. In His crucifixion He addressed the core of our problem and He paid the debt of our sins. That is why St. Peter could declare, “To Him all the prophets bear witness that everyone who believes in Him receives forgiveness of sins through His Name.” By His resurrection He has, as the prophet said, “swallowed up death,”and He goes to prepare a place for us so that we too will live forever in a new heaven and a new earth.
“Forgive yourself.”Admittedly this is much easier said than done. I have spoken with some pretty hardened folks over the years, who corporately have violated each of the Ten Commandments many times over. Often their guilt is so overwhelming that it paralyzes them emotionally and spiritually and they feel hopeless. But the Scriptures reveal to us a way to be set free from guilt.
First DON’T minimize the sin. The modern approach is to call sin a “mistake” but a mistake is when you forget to carry a number when doing long division. Sin is not a mistake. Ultimately all sin is a transgression against God. King David prayed, “Against Thee only have I sinned.”So step one is naming the sin, taking responsibility for it and asking for God’s forgiveness.
Step two is to forgive. Why? Because unforgiveness of others is one of the biggest blocks that keep us from forgiving ourselves. Thus we pray in the Lord’s Prayer, “Forgive us our trespasses AS we forgive those who trespass against us.”And here I am not suggesting that you wait for a certain emotion or that you wait until you could have a beer with the offender. Some churches pray, “Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors.” What Jesus is telling us to do is to rip up the offender’s IOU. That doesn’t require making the offender your best friend. It is an act of will that frees the other guy from your debt, so that you too can be free.
Step three is to put your sin in perspective with God’s mercy. Again this is not to minimize the sin but rather to embrace God’s mercy. How many times did you do that sin from which you suffer such guilt? Once? Twice? A hundred? That is terrible but the Bible says that His mercies are new every morning, so His mercies outnumber your sins. How many years did you sin? One? Two? Fifty? That is terrible too but the Bible says that His mercy is to a thousand generations, so again His mercies outnumber your sins.
“But Father you don’t understand how great is my sin. Even if God could forgive me I could never forgive myself.” Often I answer that objection by pointing out that is in fact a very strange form of pride. What you are really saying by this is that even though God has forgiven you, you somehow know better than God and so you cannot forgive yourself. I acknowledge that sin feels enormous and that the guilt can be overwhelming but the Scripture says that Jesus has paid the price for that sin and the text say “and not for our sins only but for the sins of the whole world.”Are your sins greater than the sins of the whole world? Of course not! So you must decide. Do you want to boast in the greatness of your sins or do you want to boast in the greatness of God’s mercy. A missionary in Peru once said, “I have given God countless reasons not to love of me. None of them have been strong enough to change Him.” Once you confess your sin to God then take your eyes off of your sin and put them on the vastness of His mercy. Then you will walk out of the prison of guilt. We can’t change our past but we don’t have to live there. David walked in the freedom of God’s mercy after committing adultery and murder. We can do it too, no matter what we have done.
“Let God love you.”I really like that Beth worded it that way. The Scriptures tell us that God is love and so if we are not getting wet it’s not because the tap has been turned off. You may have heard the saying, “If you don’t feel close to God then you need to ask yourself, ‘who moved?’”
Of course that is not always the case. The ancients spoke of “the dark night of the soul” when for reasons of His own, God allows us to spend time in a spiritual desert. But for most of the time if we do not “walk in love as Christ loved us”it is because we are not, as Scripture commands, abiding in Christ nor having the mind of Christ. What do I mean by that?
First because He is risen we can truly abide in Him. Dallas Willard said, “The Gospel is less about how to get into the Kingdom of Heaven after you die, and more about how to live in the Kingdom of Heaven before you die.”The Gospel is an invitation not to a set of doctrines but to a living relationship with the Risen Lord and God has given us means to build and maintain that relationship. But if we don’t utilize those means that God has given we will find ourselves drifting away.
Each of us as priests has had the conversation with a person who feels far away from God. The first thing we ask if they are saying their daily prayers, if they are regularly reading Holy Scripture, if they are faithfully receiving the Sacrament. When they get a quizzical look on their face, as if we had just asked if they had two heads, it is very tempting to want to knock on their forehead and ask if anyone is at home. Prayer, Word and Sacrament are not duties we fulfill to get God to love us more. They are means of grace that God has provided so that we can abide in Christ and experience the righteous, peace and joy of His kingdom. Further we need one another to accomplish this. When we burn incense we use more than one coal because it is too easy for a coal by itself to go out. God has given us the grace of the each other, the grace of the Church to keep one another burning. Or maybe I should say to keep one another FROM burning.
In a similar way God has given us His truth, both through Holy Scripture and the guidance of Holy Spirit through Holy Tradition, so that we can know His will and have the mind of Christ. Jesus said that He is the Truth and He also said that the truth will set us free. So the more that we have the mind of Christ, the more truth we walk in, the more freedom we will know.
Jesus said that He has come that we might have life and have it abundantly. Where we blow it is when we insist on doing life our own way. We just heard from the prophet “On this mountain the Lord of hosts will make for all peoples a feast of rich food, a feast of well-aged wine, of rich food full of marrow of aged wine well refined.” But here we stand with our bologna sandwich in hand essentially saying back to God, “No that’s okay I brought my own, I’ll just sit over here and eat by myself.”
We need to drop our bologna sandwich, accept His invitation and let God love us. Those of you being baptized today accept His invitation, give yourself fully over to Him and let God love you. As you come forward today to receive His Body and Blood accept His invitation give yourself fully over to Him and let God love you. And the fruit of this is that you will be in a better place to love your neighbor as yourself.
Like millions around the world last week I was brokenhearted to watch Notre Dame in flames. Cardinal Dolan of New York said that it was like attending a funeral. But it also occurred to me that this tragic event happening during Holy Week invites theological reflection.
Just as the creation of Notre Dame represents the epitome of human achievement in the Middle Ages, so humanity represented the epitome of God’s achievement in creation. Genesis says, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them.”
Then, just as the next day we saw the cathedral in ashes, so it will be true of each of us. We heard on Ash Wednesday, as the priest imposed ashes on our foreheads “Remember O man thou art dust and to dust thou shalt return.”
But that is not the end of the story. The Resurrection of Jesus has changed EVERYTHING. Death no longer has the final word. As Notre Dame will be rebuilt, and hopefully even greater than her formal glory, so those who are in Christ have a hope and a future. St. Paul says, “So is it with the resurrection for the dead. What is sown is perishable, what is raised is imperishable. It is sown in dishonor, it is raised in glory. It is sown in weakness, it is raised in power.”
Our prayer for Notre Dame is that it will be rebuilt as a house of worship and not as a cultural icon. And so our prayer for ourselves is that our bodies will be temples of the Holy Spirit and not carnal playthings. St. Paul said, “Let us celebrate the feast, no with the old leaven, the leaven of malice and evil, but with the unleavened bread of sincerity and truth.” The Resurrection of Jesus makes that possible.
Alleluia, Christ is Risen. The Lord is risen indeed. Alleluia.Then get over yourself.
Alleluia, Christ is Risen. The Lord is risen indeed. Alleluia.Then forgive yourself.
Alleluia, Christ is Risen. The Lord is risen indeed. Alleluia.Then let God love you. Amen.