Lessons from Joseph and Mary

St. Paul writes to the Church in Corinth, “For as in Adam all die, so in Christ all will be made alive.”In light of our Gospel lesson this morning I want to paraphrase the blessed Apostle and say, “For as through the first family paradise is lost, so through the Holy Family paradise is restored.” This story of Joseph and Mary is truly remarkable and the effect of their story on our lives today is beyond calculation. And yet is all too easy to brush past this story, so let’s slow down and take a closer look.

“Now the birth of Jesus Christ took place in this way. When his mother Mary was betrothed to Joseph, before they came together she was found to be with child from the Holy Spirit.”  There is a whole lot going on with those two sentences. Let me begin unpacking it by giving you some cultural background to betrothal and marriage in ancient Israel.  

If they were typical of their day, Joseph and Mary would have been betrothed when she was a teenager and it would not have been unusual for Joseph to be slightly older. Marriages in their day were a three-step process. In the first step, the parents arranged the marriage. This involved a dowry. When the financial arrangements had been made then a betrothal was announced. Step two, was the couple spending a year setting up their house and preparing for the actual wedding. At this point they did not live together, and in many cases they were not even allowed to be together alone. Nonetheless they were considered so bound to each other that to break it off, they had to seek a divorce. Additionally it was considered to be adultery if either one was unfaithful during their betrothal. 

The third stage of the marriage was a weeklong party and finally the consummation of the marriage. Joseph and Mary were in stage two, being considered essentially husband and wife, setting up house but not consummating the union. Like all young people they had to be filled with hopes and dreams but among all of their hopes and dreams they would not in a million years have guessed the path that God had prepared for them. 

An angel of the Lord visits Mary to tell her that a miraculous conception would take place, but Joseph evidently is left in the dark. Either that or Mary told Joseph but he wasn’t listening. Anyway, Mary goes off to visit her cousin Elizabeth and when she returns later, Joseph sees that she is obviously with child but knows that the child was not his.

At this point Joseph had a couple of choices. He could take her before the elders and have her disgraced for adultery, or he could quietly brake off the engagement and try to pick up the pieces of his life. He had to be completely heartbroken at what he must have thought to be a betrayal of his trust. And if he were at all a typical man then he would have been humiliated that another man had seduced his fiancée. 

But because he was a just man Joseph did not seek revenge. Instead he was going to quietly break things off until an angel of the Lord visited him and told him about a third option. He assured Joseph that Mary did not betray him but that her pregnancy was a miracle. Joseph was to marry her and become a stepfather or if you like a foster parent. What’s more, Joseph was even denied the normal right of naming his son, because the angel told him what He was to be named. The Lord was asking a lot of Joseph and of Mary.

What was their response? They both did as God called them to do without a care for either their own dreams or the expectations of others. Now I’m sure that the story has been compressed, and since they were real people, they had to have days where they wondered if they had lost their minds. But in the end they yielded their lives to God and this lead to the salvation of the world. Consider for a moment what a model this couple is to each of us and what a contrast they are to the first couple. 

Mary hears the Word of the Lord and responds by saying “Behold I am the servant of the Lord. Let it be done to me according to thy Word.” By contrast Eve doubted God’s Word. When the serpent said, “Did God really say…?” she went right along with that question. 

This tactic of the enemy did not stop with Eve. As you well know that is how it begins with every church that has gone apostate. It begins by doubting what God said rather than being like Mary and submitting to His Word.

Another contrast is Mary’s humility verses Eve’s pride. Mary accepts the word of the angel and submits, while Eve listens to the serpent and desires the knowledge of good and evil. Mary seeks to obey God while Eve seeks to be God. 

Again we see Eve’s sin as a mark of heretical bodies today. Rather than seeking change and transformation through God’s grace, the false prophet preaches a god in their own image. They do this in order to affirm people’s sins rather than calling them to repentance. Mary shows us a better way by yielding her will to the will of God. 

The contrast between the two husbands is equally significant. Joseph steps up to the plate and becomes a husband/protector. He protects Mary from disgrace by marrying her and later he will protect his family from Herod by leading them to Egypt. Adam on the other hand failed in his calling as husband/protector. Have you ever noticed that just after Eve eats the forbidden fruit the text says “and she also gave some to her husband who was with her and he ate.”  Who was with her? You mean he stood by while the serpent deceived his wife, watched her eat the forbidden fruit and then receive it from her hand? He should have gone redneck on the serpent and led his wife as far away from the tree as he possibly could. Adam failed as a leader and partner because he was passive. Joseph took action because he had heard from God and took his place as the protector of his family.

The other quality of a husband/protector that Joseph demonstrated is that he was led by God’s direction rather than by his personal desires. Why did Adam and Eve end up eating the fruit? The text says, “So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took the fruit and ate…”  So in essence they gave up their relationship with God and were kicked out of paradise because the fruit looked good and because they wanted to be like God. They lost everything because of carnal desires and pride.

Joseph however put his ego and desires in check. The Gospel says, “When Joseph woke from sleep he did as the angel of the Lord commanded him: he took his wife, but knew her notuntil she had given birth to a son. And he call his name Jesus.” Joseph did not demand his rights as a husband. He did not put his needs first. Instead, in obedience to God, and as husband/protector, he ensured the Virgin birth of Jesus Christ. And please understand that the importance of the Virgin birth of Jesus Christ cannot be over stated. 

“Born of the Virgin Mary”is not a filler line in the middle of the Apostles’ Creed. Rather it is a pivotal line without which everything that follows in the Creed would not be possible. If Jesus were a result of a natural conception and a natural birth, then He would merely be a son of Adam.  As a son of Adam He would not only have been tempted as all of us are, but He also would have sinned as all of us do who are sons of Adam. If He were a son of Adam then His death on the cross would have been for the wages of His own sins and not for the sins of the world. We would still be dead in our transgressions. If He were a son of Adam then His body would still be in the grave and we would have no hope of resurrection for ourselves or for those we love. If He were a son of Adam then we would not be able to look with hopeful expectation for His triumphal return. There wouldn’t be one. Instead we would be asking the mountains to fall on us to avoid the judgment day of the Lord. If He were a son of Adam then there would be no life everlasting and in the end it would not matter in this life if you were a saint or a serial killer because we would all go down to the same grave. 

But He is conceived by the Holy Ghost and born of the Virgin Mary; He is the Son of the Most High. As the Son of God He will be able to fulfill His name, JESUS, and save His people from their sins. Because He the Son of God He will live a sinless life, die as a propitiation for our sins, be raised from the dead and one day return in power and great glory to Judge the quick and the dead. Because He the Son of God He will do all that He promised including preparing a place for us in eternity. Because He is the Son of God death does not win in the end. We will be given new bodies to live in a new heaven and a new earth and we will be with Him and those we love forever. Because He is the Son of God you had better believe that it makes a difference if you are a saint or a serial killer because one day each of us will stand before Him to give an accounting for our lives.

The story of Joseph and Mary is truly a remarkable story. They came from a tiny town in the hills of Galilee from which no one expected anything. You will recall that when Philip told Nathanial that they had found the Messiah, Philip asked, “Can anything good come out of Nazareth?” They were not powerful political people. They were not academic elites. They were not from a family dynasty like the Rockefellers or the Kennedys. Joseph was a simple carpenter and Mary a teenage maiden. They were blue-collar folk from the hills. They could just as well been from East Tennessee and yet these are the ones whom God chose as agents to bring salvation to the world.

Obviously they have a unique place in salvation history and no one will ever be called upon again to do what they did. However, their example of humility and obedience should stand before each of us all of the time. They stand as an illustration that that you don’t have to be someone special or have spectacular gifts for God to use you. You just have to be available and say “yes.”  

This penitential season of Advent is coming to an end. In just a couple of days we will celebrate the most wonderful mystery of all mysteries, that God would become flesh and dwell among us. He comes “to save us all from Satan’s power when were gone astray”. Those truly are “tidings of comfort and joy.” But it is also a two-pronged celebration in that we who are now heirs in Him not only celebrate His birth but also look with joyful anticipation to His coming again.  Because of His grace, because of His GRACE “we may without shame of fear rejoice to behold His appearing.” May God bless your final preparations as you await the birth of our Savior. Amen. 

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